BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hi Reader It's Friday afternoon and there's a chance your brain feels like it's been through a blender this week. Mine certainly has. I spent Tuesday morning staring at my to-do list, paralysed by the number of things demanding my attention. Everything seemed urgent but nothing felt important all at the same time. The coffee went cold in the time it took me to just pick one thing and start. Then I remembered something I tell my clients all the time: your...
15 days ago • 2 min read
BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hi Reader, ... and I'm hoping you might have answers. I'm sitting here in my half-packed house (yes, still moving — the chaos continues) and I've been thinking about you. Not in a creepy way (really not my style), but in that coach-y way where I wonder how what I'm sharing actually lands with you. I'm going through this massive shift right now. Not just the physical move—weird enough—but something deeper. 'm getting really clear on what I want to focus...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hi Reader, Here we go again. My heart is doing that thing again – like I've been overdoing the coffee (though let's be honest, I probably have). It's that mix of terror and excitement you feel when you're about to do something that feels really, really important. I've been quietly working on something for months now. Top secret stuff. After years of watching brilliant people – including myself – struggle to navigate a world that wasn't built with our...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hi Reader, Sometimes things just smack you in the face. Last week I had to travel to Brighton for an in-person strategy day. Of course, my brain immediately went into overdrive - travel arrangements, energy management, all the usual stuff that comes up with leaving my safe bubble. As the day got closer, the what-ifs started moving in. What if I struggle? What if I don't enjoy it? What if I'm not good enough? What if I'm just... not enough? But I recognise...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hi Reader, At least, embarrassing is one word for it. I was really looking forward to delivering one of my free webinars on regulation (oh, the irony!) that I had put a lot of time into creating. I was co-hosting with a wonderful colleague and everything was set up for success. Then... I got "Zoom bombed." If you hadn't heard of this term (I didn't), it's basically the digital version of prank calling. What started as someone joining who appeared to be a...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hi Reader, I was on a podcast recently recently with Janine VanStee talking about acceptance. You can listen here This feels especially relevant right now, not just for me but also for many clients I've been working with. Funny how themes tend to overlap like that, isn't it? I'm facing some hairy scary changes ahead with a big move on the way and my anxiety levels are definitely spiking and the monsters under my bed are getting restless. My head is filled...
2 months ago • 1 min read
BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hi Reader My dog loves a detail, he's just sniffing that same bush for the third time while we're out on our daily walk. Obsessed about the small things. Sometimes that's good, sometimes it's really not. Tomorrow's webinar (Thursday at 2) is all about something that comes up up again and again lately: how we handle unexpected change from a routine, from the details. You know that moment - the text message that throws your day out, the shifting deadline...
2 months ago • 1 min read
BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hi Reader, Exam season is here. And the pressure is mounting. Your neurodivergent child is struggling with planning, emotional control, and focus – the very executive functions that exams demand. You want to help, but that often causes meltdowns and tears. When your child can't regulate their emotions and attention, studying becomes nearly impossible. Their dysregulation triggers yours, creating a cycle that leaves everyone exhausted. What to do? I've put...
2 months ago • 1 min read
BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hi, It's not THAT long ago when the imminent arrival of the month of May also meant that exam season was just around the corner. Gulp! Many of us feel the squeeze of increased external pressure at the thought of exams and the summer (whether you're a student, parent, sibling or colleague!). That can make regulation particularly challenging - both for ourselves and the neurodivergent people we support. That's why I and my super talented colleague Annie...
3 months ago • 1 min read
